The case manager has talked to Justin and Adler’s therapist. He has called me, during my work hours, and was unavailable to speak when I called back on my break. He emailed later and acknowledged that I had called and mentioned that he would return my call the following Monday. It’s been almost a week and I have not gotten a call.
Justin has spent a total of an hour and a half with our son in the past month. He has not made attempts to see him since August second. He has, however, taken the time to send me a screen shot that indicated I was a bad mother.
My son has been in therapy since May. Justin attended one session, and the therapist required that he pay the copay since he scheduled the appointment. After that session, he scheduled a second session and then tried to make the therapist force me to pay for his session. I have been paying 100% of these (plus I foot the bill for the entire insurance costs) for several months. I told the therapist I would pay for my sessions with our son, but nothing more. Justin can pay for his own therapy sessions.
As you can see, I’m still not keeping the child from his father. He wants to negotiate the terms of the visits, even though he hasn’t asked for one since August 2, and I agreed. He chose not to contact me after I agreed to the new arrangements so he still has not seen our son. I discussed this with the therapist and the therapist said that if he wanted to see his done, he would make it happen no matter what. He’s not interested in bonding with the child.
Justin and the mother of his (oldest) daughter went back to court. It was determined that justin has been lying about his income, and that he doesn’t report everything to his accountant for tax purposes. Their child support rate has been adjusted to a more reasonable amount because of this newest discovery. It was proven that he has been paying attorney expenses out of his business account to fight me in this battle. He was also buying all of his food and utilities from his business account as well. Justin also told the judge that he was currently the “President” of his construction business, yet claimed he only makes minimum wage.
I will also be asking for a review of my current status, because this will change his percentages in my case as well. This new information will make our percentages more equal for the court and case manager fees, rather than me shouldering the majority of expenses.
Justin has told his family that he intends on marrying the newest woman he’s impregnated. He has also told them that they will not be living in sin before they are married anymore. He had the renters in his rental house move out and he told his family he is moving into it with his daughter. This is still a two bedroom home, so there is still no space for our son. I discovered today that he has listed the rental house back for rent as of 15 days ago, so it is pretty apparent that he was simply lying to his family to get in their good graces. Although, the thought of him leaving a woman who is pregnant with his child and letting her fend for herself is not a shocker, when it comes to him.
My son is thriving, he’s started training himself to use the potty. He’s not even 2 yet. He’s also incredibly advanced on all of his landmark developmental stages, by at least 4 months on all of them. He is enrolled to start his first official schooling in a few weeks. We are so excited where this new chapter will take us and I can only hope that this “relationship” with his father doesn’t get in the way of his continued development.